For most people, especially a new bride-to-be, the wedding day is one of the most important days of their lives until that moment. People get so absorbed in planning and managing an event of this scale that they often forget the huge leap of faith they’re about to take and the ramifications it’s about to have on their individual lives. Until it all hits them one day in the form of a spiral of stress, often known as the pre-wedding jitters. Having never faced something like this before, people find themselves in uncharted waters, leading to a feeling of helplessness.
But know that this is something that millions of people go through and deal with and that this is another bridge to cross for you before you get to the good part. Until then, we have compiled a list of some useful ways to deal with these pre-wedding jitters for a bride-to-be. Follow these, and you’re all set to be back to the old calm and composed self, ready to start a new chapter of your life.
1. Recognise where the stress comes from
Once you realise that these pre-wedding jitters are getting to you, the first thing to do is to set aside a moment for yourself to introspect. A marriage is a completely new phase of life, and the anticipation carries its own weight with it, especially for a bride-to-be. Reflect back on your decision to get married in the first place, and remind yourself of all the things that led you to take that decision, and all the things that have been stressing you ever since. Once you come to the root of this, you’ll realise where the tension erupted from, and hence can take the necessary steps to resolve those particular issues.
2. You deserve some off days
Drowning yourself in your wedding planning might not leave any space in your life for anything else, and that will inevitably lead to you getting overwhelmed and overstressed. As a bride-to-be, you need to maintain your sanity by giving yourself some wedding-free days, when you keep yourself far away from anything wedding-related and instead do something you enjoy on a regular day, like a romantic getaway or an all-girls’ outing. Everyone needs a break to rejuvenate themselves.
3. Have a support system in place
Acknowledge that pre-wedding jitters are a real thing for a bride-to-be and be prepared for the inevitable stress and anxiety in advance. Have a troupe of trusted friends and family that are ready to handle your emotional ups and downs and help you brave through the tough times. Having a therapist at hand is also a great idea for a time like this. Wedding planning is a difficult path to navigate – but shouldn’t be a troubling one, if you’re smart and plan ahead well.
4. Learn to meditate
Meditation is a solution to a bevvy of problems. In the process of wedding planning, there are a million decisions to be taken, and a million opinions to be argued with to come up with something that everyone agrees on. Someone or the other will always have to end up adjusting, and no one will ever want to be in that position. In such situations, not losing your cool and maintaining a clear head is key for a bride-to-be, and a sure way to get that is through meditating. Take some time out to reconnect with your inner self and see all your earthly problems disappear in front of your eyes. The answer is always within you – all you have to do is look.
5. Be ready to be surprised
A celebration as big as a wedding depends on a lot of things to go perfectly, which one always hopes for, but which can also very easily go wrong. Being prepared for things to go wrong before they do is the mantra to a stress-free wedding. Manage everything to your best capabilities, but always be receptive to the idea that a million things could go wrong at the drop of a hat. This way, no mishap will ever surprise you, and you’ll have the kind of level-headedness that is expected from a champ bride-to-be. Best case scenario, everything turns out your way, and you have the perfect wedding celebration that you’ve always wanted. But if everything does not, know that you are with the love of your life, surrounded by your loved ones,
and nothing can make you sad on a day meant to be the happiest of your life.
If nothing works, you can always turn to food. Some of the edibles that can have a calming effect on your pre-wedding jitters would be chocolate, walnuts, citrus fruits, green tea and almonds. Remember that you are not alone in this. If you're the bride-to-be, you also have your groom-to-be who could be going through something similar. It is best to talk things through before you start considering it as something big and serious, and let it weigh you down.
Remember, it’s your day, and no one can take that away from you. Think of the new life waiting for you ahead, and the exciting things that come with it, and you’ll be the most chilled-out bride-to-be that ever was. After all, you have been waiting for this day a long time. Enjoy it while it lasts!
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