Our Wedding Chapter

Discuss finances

If there was an arrangement you’d spoken about with your parents earlier, talk to them now and see what works well for everyone. Is there a particular financial concern that you need to address together? Should you pitch in with your savings? What is a comfortable amount for them? You need to ask all these questions and have a long, honest discussion to avoid unnecessary stress and any kind of misunderstanding later. Even if the difficult questions feel like they’re too much, remember that these are your parents and they’ll be more than happy to help you out with useful advice and suggestions.

Talk about traditions

Are there any particular traditions they’d love to see at the wedding? This is especially relevant if you’re to give your celebrations a modern twist. Ask them about their preferences so that you know what to add and how to balance modern and traditional elements together. Do get your doubts about certain traditions clarified too because they really will be able to tell you what’s necessary versus what isn’t important. It’s a good idea to ask about special things now such as a piece of jewellery that has been passed down over the years and across generations. Perhaps your grandmother would love to see you wear it at the wedding and celebrate a priceless family gift.

Ask them about their concerns

Is there anything they’re worried about? Do they think the guest list is too huge and it’ll be difficult to handle so many people? Do they need to sort out the planning details with you to make sure everything goes exactly as imagined? Talk to them about things and see if there’s anything that’s causing them stress. Reassure them and offer solutions to ensure that they’re at ease and can proceed with the planning process without fear.

Don’t take their advice for granted

While you absolutely must go ahead with your dream wedding and work on making it a reality, don’t underestimate the value of any kind of advice your parents may gave you. Ask them for suggestions and major mistakes to avoid. Because they have experience and the benefit of hindsight, they’ll really able to offer solid advice that will guide you well during the planning process for your wedding. Let them know that you cherish what they tell you.