The Reddy Marriage Experience: Here's What You Can Expect At Your BFF's Wedding
The dhoti-clad groom and the silk saree adorned bride. Her delicate Kamarband and his triple stroked Tilak. The varied smells of Biryani and Shahi Tukda and the serenity and calm of the wedding rituals. Sounds like the perfect Reddy marriage.
Always dreamt of attending your besties reddy marriage so that you could finally steal your mum’s Kanjivaram saree? Well, it’s finally here. Your time to attend something completely different and be the perfect bridesmaid. However, to be one, it’s important for you to know all about what happens in a reddy wedding.
From the kinds of clothes to go for, to the beautiful wedding rituals and ceremonies. Once you know that you can be one top of your game and prevent your bestie from becoming a bridezilla. Here’s all you need to know about the rituals and ways of a Reddy wedding.
The Reddy Marriage Background
Reddy’s are a community found in the Indian state Andhra Pradesh as well as Telangana. While a Reddy marriage resembles other forms of South Indian weddings, it has a number of its own elements. Remember that weddings are a serious affair with the Reddy community. This is not to say that their weddings are boring, sure they are super fun too.
However, the rites and ceremonies are taken rather seriously so as to maintain and preserve the sanctity. If you are planning to have a crazy party, save that for the reception and remember to respect that.
1. The Rituals
Coming to the rituals in a Reddy marriage there’s a lot you need to learn. From the way they happen to the symbolism and what you can wear for them.
A. The engagement ceremony
Once the dates have been finalised, its time for the engagement ceremony or the Nisachaitharthum. Its a rather simple affair, so don’t be surprised if your best friend calls you over to her house for this. This is also an event where the bride and groom are presented with gifts. So do not forget to her the perfect engagement gift.
What to wear:
Seeing as how it's a simple event, you can probably go ahead and wear a slightly heavy suit. Maybe a Chikankari kurta with leggings and pretty earrings can do the trick.
B. Haldi or Pendlikoothuru
Much like the North IndianHaldi ceremony, this one usually takes place a day or two before the wedding. The Haldi, also known as Naluga is infused aromatic oils and smeared across the bride and groom’s faces, arms and legs. >You could go ahead and get her a Gajra for her Indian hairstyle. For once the ceremony is over, the bride puts on the Gajra as custom.
What to Wear: Go for a lovely yellow to suit the occasion. Again, it doesn’t have to be anything too heavy.
C. The Wedding or Vivaaham:
It's finally time! It all begins with the Puja so as to start off the rest of the rituals. The groom is escorted by young girls who carry a sacred oil lamp. The bride is brought in a bamboo Doli on the shoulders of her brother and/or uncle. Make sure you are found around the Doli like the perfect bridesmaid. After they’ve been seated, there remains a curtain between the bride and groom till the time is right and once it's removed its time for the Muhurutam.
It's here that a groom ties a yellow thread around the bride’s neck that has a golden pendant. This is an important one! So remember to document it for her. There’s also another ritual called Madhuparkam in the Reddy marriage where both the bride and groom have to change attires.
You know you have to assist her in getting ready! Once all that’s done, a few rituals later it would finally be time for the Kanyadanaam. Remember to hug her tight, it's not like you guys won’t meet again but this marks a special moment in your friendship. Cry your heart out if you so, please.
What to Wear: Its finally time to pull out the gem from your closet (or your mum’s). Go for a beautiful Kanjivaram saree with a lovely border and add a lovely Kamarband to it. Well, you are attending a Reddy marriage, so look the part.
We hope this comprehensive guide into how your BFF’s reddy marriage will look like helps prepare you. Remember to be her constant support for she’d need you to handle those jitters. So if she doesn’t run for the hills on her wedding day you’d be the one to take credit.
Enjoy the experience to the fullest because she is only getting married once and you might not witness something like this soon. Oh, and don’t forget to stuff yourself with some of the best Hyderabadi delicacies.
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